Start with the walk
Two strangers on a track have something obvious in common. They are looking for the same turn, climbing the same slope and wondering whether the rain will hold off. You can start there. A shared task gives a conversation somewhere to pause and somewhere to begin again. For some men that feels easier than meeting face to face across a table.
Listen to the words he actually uses
If a lad says “Work’s been a lot lately,” you do not need to turn the next kilometre into a coaching session. “What’s been taking up your time?” leaves him room to answer. He might tell you about a new baby, a difficult manager or a machine that keeps breaking. Follow his answer. If he changes the subject, go with him.
Respect the rest of the group
A public path offers little privacy. If a subject feels personal, check whether this is somewhere he wants to talk about it. Ask before giving advice and before sharing a photo. When the group stops for directions or crosses a road, give the walk leader your attention. Nobody has to keep a conversation running all the way back.
Join at your own pace
A Brotherhood walk has a practical plan, and there may be food afterwards. Check the event details for your chosen date. If you would prefer a dedicated conversation with Naoki, one-to-one coaching is a separate option.
From The Brotherhood Community, County Wexford. All field guides.